Communicating Our Needs

Nearly twenty years ago, I facilitated a Healthy Sexuality group for women. One of the things we discussed was their personal rights. I am a huge believer that we all have personal rights and it’s okay to ask others to meet them. Imagine my surprise when I realized I was not capable of asking anyone else to meet my needs. If I’m going to be perfectly honest, I wasn’t even capable of speaking my needs. I remember clearly when my husband and I moved in together. I used to get so very frustrated by his lack of attentiveness to my needs. Countless times I would say things like, “No I didn’t tell him! If he really loves me, he should just know!!” Now that phrase absolutely stops me in my tracks.

The Shame of Saying No

The Shame of Saying No

This blog has been created and called for by countless women that I coach, counsel, and chat with each and every day. I've been acutely aware of growing and deadly trend of the Shame of saying No. The reality is that this issue is magnified every day with the advent of social media.  

Many women are programmed that the "right"...

The Pain of Fertility

The Pain of Fertility

I originally posted this on Huffington Post. I felt called to share this today, the eve of Mothers Day.

9 Lessons From My Suicide Attempt

9 Lessons From My Suicide Attempt

A little over 10 years ago, I made a decision to end my life. I didn’t leave a note because I didn’t want to hurt anyone. I couldn’t conceptualize saying goodbye to anyone without them feeling guilty about not knowing. I didn’t want to cause...

Heal This, Heal Your Money Story

Heal This, Heal Your Money Story

As has become typical for any blogs that I write, this blog required me to do a great deal of introspection. It forced me to examine every corner of my own money issues. The reason I spent so much time observing my own money story and relationship with money, was because I wanted to ...

Combating Law of Attraction Shame

Combating Law of Attraction Shame

I remember the point in my life that I was introduced to the law of attraction. It was an absolute game changer for me. I remember the person that gave me the movie “The Secret”, as an introduction to the Law of Attraction. In essence the Law of Attraction says, “Like attracts like”. To many of us reading this particular blog, this is...

Shame

If you follow me at all on any social media, you will have noticed that I’ve spent a lot of time recently talking about shame. I think shame is currently very pervasive and active in our world today. I want to start with...

How Dealing with an Unhealthy Body Affects Daily Life

How Dealing with an Unhealthy Body Affects Daily Life

Living in a body that is not completely perfect can be a struggle. This blog will give you insight as to what some people experience.

Living peacefully in the body you have

Living peacefully in the body you have

We reside in such a confusing world of complex paradigms. We talk about how self-love should be a priority. All the while sending very direct messages of body shame to anyone who...

Navigating the Holidays in an unwell body

Navigating the Holidays in an unwell body

If you have followed any of my blogs you are aware that I have been offered diagnoses for a variety of health conditions, including but not limited to...

The dark side of Entrepreneurship ~When depression sets in:

The dark side of Entrepreneurship       ~When depression sets in:

If life were a fairy tale, when you would have a dream or a goal, it would just magically come to fruition. But the reality is we are not in a fairy tale at all. I’ve been...

Finding Safety in your Physical Body

Finding Safety in your Physical Body

As a person that relates to the world with trauma brain, safety is always my number one priority. In the past, I would have even wagered to say that safety was my number one priority in every area. However...

Lessons from 20 years of Sobriety:

Lessons from 20 years of Sobriety:

A few months ago I celebrated 20 years since I last consumed any alcohol.  While this may seem like nothing to many of you, I invite you to go spend some time at your local detox centers. You will quickly discover that this is something many people cannot do at all.  And for those of you who...

Boundaries for Empaths

Boundaries for Empaths

I don’t honestly remember hearing much about boundaries until I was in my late twenties. Even then, my memories of it are very vague and generic. For some reason, I have this memory of...

To The Officer Who Pulled Me Over

To The Officer Who Pulled Me Over

Every day we hear horror stories about police brutality and police abusing their power. Here’s what I want you to know at the forefront of this story: my favorite uncle...