What Does Shame Resilience Look Like?

So many times we throw around these terms and make assumptions that other people know what it means. I want you to understand very clearly what will happen when we work together.

From Survivor to Thriver

According to Webster’s Dictionary, “to survive” is defined as; to endure or live through (an affliction, adversity, misery, etc.). The way my brain works, as a survivor then, is a person who has endured or lived through something horrible. Seems reasonable, right?...

Picking Who Helps You

This is not a blog I write lightly. Additionally, I want to provide a warning: if you are not in a good place, please do not read this. If you are currently triggered or recently triggered (from a trauma standpoint), then please do not read this. The very last thing in the world that I want to do is to create more harm, and subsequently hurt more people.
For over the last twenty years, I have been a...

Communicating Our Needs

Nearly twenty years ago, I facilitated a Healthy Sexuality group for women. One of the things we discussed was their personal rights. I am a huge believer that we all have personal rights and it’s okay to ask others to meet them. Imagine my surprise when I realized I was not capable of asking anyone else to meet my needs. If I’m going to be perfectly honest, I wasn’t even capable of speaking my needs. I remember clearly when my husband and I moved in together. I used to get so very frustrated by his lack of attentiveness to my needs. Countless times I would say things like, “No I didn’t tell him! If he really loves me, he should just know!!” Now that phrase absolutely stops me in my tracks.

The Shame of Saying No

The Shame of Saying No

This blog has been created and called for by countless women that I coach, counsel, and chat with each and every day. I've been acutely aware of growing and deadly trend of the Shame of saying No. The reality is that this issue is magnified every day with the advent of social media.  

Many women are programmed that the "right"...

The Pain of Fertility

The Pain of Fertility

I originally posted this on Huffington Post. I felt called to share this today, the eve of Mothers Day.

9 Lessons From My Suicide Attempt

9 Lessons From My Suicide Attempt

A little over 10 years ago, I made a decision to end my life. I didn’t leave a note because I didn’t want to hurt anyone. I couldn’t conceptualize saying goodbye to anyone without them feeling guilty about not knowing. I didn’t want to cause...

Heal This, Heal Your Money Story

Heal This, Heal Your Money Story

As has become typical for any blogs that I write, this blog required me to do a great deal of introspection. It forced me to examine every corner of my own money issues. The reason I spent so much time observing my own money story and relationship with money, was because I wanted to ...

Combating Law of Attraction Shame

Combating Law of Attraction Shame

I remember the point in my life that I was introduced to the law of attraction. It was an absolute game changer for me. I remember the person that gave me the movie “The Secret”, as an introduction to the Law of Attraction. In essence the Law of Attraction says, “Like attracts like”. To many of us reading this particular blog, this is...